About Fiona Ng
Fiona Ng Parenting Coach
Hi,
And welcome to Happy Me Parenting. I’m guessing you are here because you are looking for some parenting support and you are wondering if I can help so let me tell you a little bit about me and how I work.
My name is Fiona Ng and I live in North Tyneside with my two daughters age (5) and (7) and our white fluffy cat Fairy. I have a positive co-parenting relationship with my daughters dad as we separated when they were (1) and (3).
In my early 20’s I had high aspirations of being a life coach as I embarked on my own self development journey however I also realised not many people would want “life” help from someone so young.
It wasn’t until I became a mother age 27 that I realised I viewed motherhood quite differently from those that were around me. I realised the importance of the job in front of me and intuitively knew parenting was more than putting a roof over kids heads, feeding them, sending them to school and having an annual holiday – I knew it was going to require me to grow, evolve and change…
And I did just that!
Parent Coaching
I didn’t even know what Parent Coaching was until I discovered Dr Shefali Tsabary and read her books the Awakened Family and The Conscious Parent both of which resonated with me and changed the trajectory of my parenting.
“Parent the child in front of you and not the child you fantasized about having.” – Dr Shefali Tsabary
This quote made so much sense as I was more than aware that I wasn’t free to be my authentic self growing up because my parents couldn’t really see and hear me like most parents from that generation couldn’t. Conscious parenting changed my life (and my kids) so naturally wanted to help other parents. A quick google search led me to the Jai Institute of Parenting which is where I started my Parent Coach training.
My Parent Coaching Career So Far
I did my 6 month training with the Jai Institute of Parenting whilst also doing certifications in NLP and I qualified as a Positive Parenting Workshop Facilitator and took on my first client at the back end of 2018.
I’ve worked remotely since then with parents from all over the world with most of my clients being from America in the early days as I think they were a a bit more forward thinking when it comes to conscious parenting with the UK now slowly catching up.
I’ve worked extensively with individuals and couples over these years which has given me great insights into the struggles parents have behind close doors. Many parents reach out to me with a huge long list of concerns about their child eager to get tools, tips and strategies and are perhaps some what surprised that this isn’t what they receive.
I’m not a teacher, I’m not an expert, I’m not here to tell you what to do and I’m certainly not super nanny.
I am more of a guide with a therapeutic approach – many of my parenting clients actually find it hard to describe what I am referring to me more as a ‘parenting therapist’ then a parenting coach and this is perhaps true.
After working with parents for a number of years I realised many parents are struggling with their kids because they have unhealed trauma and are spending most of their time dysregulated and outside their window of tolerance, so it makes complete sense why parents are stressed, depleted, worn out and unable to get to the root cause of their child’s behaviour.
Seeing this time and time again when working with parents I decided to dive into the work of Dr Gabor Maté who is a world renowned expert in the field of trauma and embarked on his professional training completing level 1 in his Compassionate Inquiry approach.
Upon completing this training I then signed up to Peter Levine’s three year Somatic Experiencing training which I am currently in year 1.
Somatic Experiencing (SE) is where my current passion is because I first hand have experienced the life changing results that this therapy brings. I have been having weekly SE sessions since February 2022 which is on going alongside my professional training.
Somatic Experiencing works with a clients nervous system and not necessarily the story. Many of my clients are well educated in conscious parenting, have read the books, done the online courses, listened to the podcasts, got the tools and strategies yet still cannot implement what they have learnt when they are in triggering moments with their children.
Why is this?
Because we need to work somatically – meaning we have to work with the body and this is the piece that is normally missing for parents!
“The SE approach aims to safely release traumatic shock ‘frozen’ in the body at times of overwhelm, allowing for a natural transformation of both PTSD and the wounds of emotional and early childhood trauma.
SE offers a way to explore where a person is “stuck” in the stressful fight, flight or freeze responses, and provides practical clinical tools to resolve these fixated physiological states. It teaches simple, effective skills that mobilise the body’s innate self-healing systems – the same physiological processes that mend broken bones and fight disease.”
I now blend parent coaching and somatics bringing a more embodied approach to clients. On our sessions together more silent space is created as a client learns to become aware of and track their bodily sensations. It’s through this gradual process that clients learn how to stay with their dysregulation and befriend difficult emotions. As they do this they then build their resilience and capacity to be maintain a level of ‘okayness’ in tricky situations with their children. Not only that but as parents learn to self regulate they are then able to bring a new nervous system for their child to be able to co-regulate with. It really is a beautiful process.
Hopefully this makes sense.
If you are curious to experience a session with me you can first reach out for an initial parent consult call where I get to learn a little bit more about you and your family. You can make an enquiry by filling out the following form here: or you can email me on fiona@happymeparenting.com
I have a podcast: Conscious Parenting UK and lots of people first find out about me from my instagram @happymeparenting
I look forward to hearing from you.
Fiona's life
A bit from me…
So who am I behind the qualifications?
I am just a parent like you. I am a mother to two daughters age 5 and age 7 one of whom is a highly sensitive child and I have a beautiful co-parent relationship with their dad. As I became a parent I uncovered many of my own unhealed childhood issues which were presenting themselves in my parenting.
“If we are not aware of our own trauma, our own pains, our own fears, we are going to pass it down to our kids.” – Dr Gabor Maté
I grew up with a parent who had endured a life time of childhood traumas before he brought me into the world. He had failed suicide attempts, been through the care system as his own parents abandoned him so he was put into a children’s home before moving from pillar to post in foster care.
Growing up with a parent with mental health issues obviously had an impact on me and my siblings. It is well known that trauma passes down the generations until someone consciously decides to heal.
So here I am.
I believe that we heal our children as we heal ourselves which is why if you are at a point where you realise you want and need support in your parenting then you and your children will go on a beautiful journey together.
When I’m not studying or working 1-1 supporting parents you can find me curled up on my sofa with blankets, candles, a huge cup of tea and a good book! I’m a projector in human design so I am here to guide the generators of the world. My super power is being able to emotionally attune to clients and to see things that they may not be able to see. I guide clients to have more rest, regulation, peace and calm and I embody all of this into my own life. Projectors are here to have 80% play, rest, fun and 20% work. I’m careful with my energy and only work with a limited number of clients at one time. I don’t believe in the burn out or grind hard culture and if you get to know me you will find my life is quite the opposite!
In my spare time I also like to do salsa dancing lessons, pilates classes and strength training at the gym.
Qualifications
Neuro-linguistics programming practitioner (2018)– Communicating Excellence.
Parenting Coaching Certification (2018/19)- Jai Institute of Parenting.
Positive Parenting workshop facilitator (2019) – Care for the family.
Compassionate inquiry practitioner (2020-2021) compassion inquiry with Dr Gabor Maté.
Somatic Experiencing Level 1 (commences March 2023)
Directory Profiles
Fiona Ng is listed as a verified life coach on the life coach directory – https://www.lifecoach-directory.org.uk/lifecoaches/fiona-ng
Fiona Ng is listed as one of the Bloss Platforms Parenting experts – https://blossapp.com/shop/paid-content/book-fiona-ng-for-virtual-consultations/